Get to Know Mike

Celebrating the intrinsic nature of gay men to connect sexually, and leveraging that energy to deepen our spiritual and emotional bonds, is what motivates my work as a podcast host, a writer, a community facilitator, and a gay Elder.

I’m not a standard guy.


I am a yoga teacher, a meditator, a local government bureaucrat, a writer, a facilitator, an analyst, a leatherman, a philosopher, and a bad poet. I’m a graduate of the school of hard knocks. As if that weren’t enough, I’m a 55-year-old, partnered, gay man in an open relationship. I’m an AIDS era survivor, a recipient of white male privilege, and a thorn in the side of those asking gay men to accept life as it is.


I have over 35 years of sexual experience-what I like to think of as “field work” becoming the best Personal and Sex Transformation Coach as I can be.


From finding sex in everyday spaces, sex before HIV, navigating sexual health, being monogamous, being open, being polyamorous, exploring fetish & BDSM (things I learned as International Mister Leather in 2007), being a hypersexual sport-fucker, learning to love the one man I’m with, and even finding peace with having very little sex at all, I’ve learned a lot throughout my experiences about my body and my soul.


I grew up with a Mormon family in Nebraska, Wyoming, and Idaho, then moved to San Diego in 1985 hoping to become a professional ballet dancer. AIDS and a drug addiction derailed those plans and landed me in West Hollywood in 1991. I’ve lived there until 2018 before relocating to the South Hollywood neighborhood in Los Angeles.

Hitting the gym and getting sober launched me onto a path of exploration that led to a 20+ year job I love at West Hollywood City Hall, a chance to expand my sexual identity, and a nagging realization that, against all odds, I am becoming an elder in my community.

I’ve had the honour of being chosen as International Mr Leather 2007, a process that ripped the closet door off one of the last hidden parts of my identity. It allowed me to start a fraternal alumni group of leather men called the LA Band of Brothers.


I followed the lead of Race Bannon (from San Francisco) and started a Facebook group called Mike’s Bar. It encourages kinky gay men to get offline and meet face to face. 


At West Hollywood City Hall, Councilmember D’Amico’s office sponsored my idea to start a gay men’s discussion group. I call it “TRIBE.” February 9, 2011, was our first meeting and it has met monthly ever since. After five years of facilitating the group, I turned it over The Thrive Tribe who now handle the facilitation.

I’ve recently published my first memoir, Drama Club. The book is a labor of love. The process of writing it was essential to making sense of my life on planet earth.


After four years of marriage to a quality man, we divorced.
It is still painful for us both. But, instead of omitting this fact we both agree that presenting what’s really going on (both good and bad) about our experience is more likely to help our peers.

I have a boyfriend. Dennis and I are getting along extremely well.

I am a...


  • Certified Master Practitioner in Neuro Linguistic Programming

  • Certified Master Coach in Neuro Linguistic Programming

  • Certified Master Practitioner in Time Line Therapy®

  • Certified Master Hypnotherapist

  • Certified Yoga Instructor

  • Reiki II - Usui Reiki with Holy Fire

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I am also a...



  • Podcast Host

    • I was a host of the GerleMen Podcast, where we discussed a range of topics and examined the gay male existence.

  • Yoga Instructor

    • Building a consistent yoga and meditation practice (discipline) has liberated me in subtle and profound ways (freedom). I have earned my 200-hour Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT) Certification so that I can share it with others.


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“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.” 

— Brené Brown